“My Beloved Daughter” – HHM, CH3 – Part 3

Quick 4-minute read

"Do and Don't"

Don’t act or react impulsively—nor give in to revealing your assailant. God is known for telling us to “Wait!” Then, He says, watch Him change everything. “Do not fear! Stand by and see the salvation of the Lord, which He will [begin to] accomplish for you today..." (Exodus 14:13-14). God said He is the “Wonderful and Mighty Counselor” (Isa. 9:6), so begin discussing details ONLY with HIM. Don’t you deserve the best? Wouldn’t it be amazing to have a Counselor who knows the future—One who can actually turn the heart of those involved to repentance? There is only One who can show you the right direction, heal you, and show you how to move forward in your life to a bright and beautiful future. Trust your Father and Him alone! So many are suffering as you are, with ongoing pain, suffering, and shame, that only GOD can heal and make whole.

Sadly, even Christian counselors or therapists aren't able to help because they fail to acknowledge that only He can heal and only His Word can wash us clean. The greatest and most destructive lie is— we can be healed the more we talk about it. Nonsense. If this were true, you would see more people healed. So, based on this lie, everyone encourages you to continuously talk about things that happened in the past and about things that should never be said because God already knows. And worse, to confront each person in the assault and the insult of the unrepented to withhold a proper and meaningful apology—as if this can possibly make up for years of pain. Nothing anyone can say or do could make up for or compensate you!

Let go of what you have been led to believe will make things right again so you can grab hold of what GOD promises you instead. Read this over and over every day all day...

“Instead of your shame, you will have a DOUBLE portion, and instead of humiliation, they will shout for joy over their portion; therefore, they will possess a DOUBLE portion in their land. Everlasting joy will be theirs. For I, the LORD, love justice, I hate robbery (like robbing you of your innocence and stealing your joy) . . . And I will faithfully give them their recompense and make an everlasting covenant [a binding contract] with them” (Isaiah 61:7-8).

And should you still believe the lie that you were partly or completely to blame, read this promise from GOD, “Speak kindly . . . And call out to her, that her warfare has ended, that her iniquity [any mistake made] has been removed, that she has received of the LORD'S hand DOUBLE for all her sins [errors in judgment- what you did or failed to do]” (Isaiah 40:2).

Now see if this rings true; once your counselor, therapist, or psychologist listens to what he/she has encouraged you to reveal, he or she cannot comfort you sufficiently after all the painful memories are stirred up, open, and raw. Counselors/therapists/psychologists are trained to get you to focus on and talk about the past instead of looking to the future. This is the exact opposite of what GOD says. As the Apostle Paul, who went through countless difficulties in his life, many with huge regrets and shame (like holding the cloaks of the men who stoned the Apostle Stephen), he said and vowed, “...one thing I’ll do: forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I [will] press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God” (Phil. 3:12–14). Read and use this promise to watch your life change.

If you still feel that your life and future are hopeless, start to praise GOD—since hopeless situations are when He shows up—so He can show His powerful love toward us! “With people, this is impossible, but with God, all things are possible!” (Matt. 19:26).

Work with God. And please don’t believe that without the other person’s repentance, conviction, or what they did is exposed, you can be healed, will finally feel safe, and your relationship will be restored and made new! Our ministry was founded by and for those who were the only person seeking every variety of restoration imaginable! However, God has proven that there is no impossible situation—our books and websites are filled with hopeless lives that God continues to restore. Why not you? What we know and have proof of and share with each and every woman is that the only thing anyone needs to do is to give their entire heart to the One who will keep it safe. “For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth that He may support those whose heart is completely His . . .” (2 Chron. 16:9).

Please understand I have had the privilege of being “counseled” by the Best Counselor countless times, and in this book, I will share just some of what He has told me through His Word. No two situations are exactly alike; nevertheless, His Word applies to all situations. “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction so that we will be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God” (2 Cor. 1:3–4).

Search His Word after you have asked Him to find the answers you need. “Ask, and it shall be given to you; seek and you shall find . . .” (Matt. 7:7 KJV) “But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all men generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him. But he must ask in faith without any doubting, for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea, driven and tossed by the wind. For that man ought not to expect that he will receive anything from the Lord, being a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways” (James 1:5–8).

You must have faith! And where do you get faith? From Him! JUST ASK Him for faith since “all good things come from above” (James 1:17).

Meditate on what He showed you in part 3 of chapter 3,
then pour your heart out in your Journal,
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