This lesson, "Tell it to Your Husband," was a huge eye-opener for me since I always spoke and said too much, especially when I was hurt or angry. And I have seen the destruction it has caused in so many areas of my life, from my marriage to my professional relationships. I used to say whatever was on my mind or in my heart.
As women, we are told or might feel like we need to talk about our feelings to let them all out; otherwise, we will be like a pressure cooker building up steam until it explodes. We want to talk to the person who wronged us, anybody who is willing to listen, or even counselors or psychiatrists. But no amount of talking or fighting will bring us the comfort and healing we need.
The author shared a very important principle that stuck with me: NEVER talk about ANYTHING when there are still emotions tied to it. When you talk to the person who wronged you while you are hurt, you will only expose your fragile heart, setting you up for more hurt. Talking to them while you are angry will cause you to say cruel and hurtful things, only to regret everything you said later on. And I can attest to this because I've talked too much in both situations, saying things that I cannot take back.
After finding Restore Ministries International, I learned that we must take all our feelings to the Lord, our Heavenly Father. He is the only One who can give us true comfort and healing; it is useless to look for healing or comfort from the person who hurt you or made you angry because they simply do not have it.
The Lord is our Great Physician, and only He can truly heal us, not the person who did us wrong or anybody else.
We must learn the secret of taking all of our emotions to our prayer closet. This is not running to your cellphone to call somebody. This is a private place that you can set up at home or at your workplace. Anywhere where you can be alone with the Lord without any distractions, whenever you are experiencing feelings that you need to get out, go to your prayer closet and talk to Him; pour your heart out to Him; allow Him to comfort you; and listen to Him until all the feelings are gone.
When all the feelings are gone, the need to talk to anyone will be gone as well. If the other person wants to talk about it later, you will be able to talk with no emotions attached, preventing more hurt and things being said that will cause more destruction.
Commit to trusting Him with your hurts, emotions, and feelings. Rather than sharing them with your assailant or with anyone else to get things right, settle everything with the One who understands and can heal you rather than letting destructive emotions run wild, destroying your most important relationships.
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