My Custody Loss: Update and New Chapter 💗

Chapter 9

“Update: Things Are Busy Changing”

In the previous chapter I’ve shared what I’ve learned during the first year of my custody loss. Now after almost a year and a half, things are busy changing. As I shared previously, Kevin wanted me to move to their town so we can share a 50/50 custody plan. Since the beginning I told Kevin that I am trusting my Heavenly Husband and will wait for His appointed time. I trusted that if it is His will, there will be a townhouse available and everything will fall into place easily. I also trusted my Husband regarding home schooling; when the custody issue started, I mentioned it once, but Kevin didn’t want to hear anything about it, he was set on the private Christian School. But the Lord is busy turning everything around, even if I didn’t see anything happening for a long time, He was and still is working behind the scenes…

A month or two ago Kevin phoned me one morning telling me that we needed to talk, he told me that he wants me to move closer for the children’s sake, they do not like going to aftercare in the afternoons and they are not doing their homework and tasks, they are not taking it seriously. He told me that he will start looking for a place for me to stay in their town, but once again I told him that I am trusting my Husband and if it’s His will, He will make a way. Then Kevin started to talk about home schooling, he told me that he wishes he could find somebody to home school the children, that it is better to take the children out of the worldly influences, basically all the concerns I had and only took to my Heavenly Husband, he mentioned.

He mentioned that a lot of the children are only in that school because their parents can afford to have them there and not because they are Christian. I have heard things some of the children said and just the way they talk, and I got shivers down my spine, but I took it to my Husband and only took my concerns to Him, also using it as an opportunity to teach my children. Then there is also one boy that started bullying my daughter in front of her classmates, saying mean things, but I took it to Him and taught my daughter some principles to apply, like win without a word, to give a blessing instead and to talk to her Heavenly Father while he is hurling all these nasty comments at her. I reminded her that her Heavenly Father is with her always and that she must leave it in His hands to fight for her. In cases like this it is so easy to act in the flesh and go to the school and talk to the teachers or even the boy, and previously I would have done it, but now I am trusting my Heavenly Husband and my children’s Heavenly Father with this.

While Kevin was talking about home schooling, my Husband led me to say that I am a Worker @ Home and I can home school my children, he immediately agreed and said he will look for a place for me to stay with space to convert into a “classroom.” He also said he will fully support me in this!

After this conversation I left it there and did not talk to Kevin about moving or home schooling again. But he phoned me during the week before the Easter weekend to make arrangements for me to take the children back for the long weekend, they were with me because of the Easter school holiday and they went camping with Kevin for the long weekend, so I had to take them back. He said I must meet him at a townhouse so I can have a look at it to see if I will be willing to stay there.

The townhouse is bigger than the one I currently stay in, and I told Kevin if they are prepared to wait until the end of May, because I have to give notice where I currently stay, then I will move there. I didn’t hear anything for more than a week and was okay with it, since I left it in my Husband’s hands and will follow if He opens the way. Then about four days ago, Kevin phoned me and told me everything is arranged, the contract is signed for end of May, I must just give notice, he will arrange the move and enough boxes for me to start packing. I was totally shocked, it’s just falling into place, but then again, I did ask my Husband to make it light and easy if it is His will.

To be quite honest, deep down I do not want to move to that town, but I have to lay down my will. Where I am now I am at peace, in a comfort zone with my Heavenly Husband, and it is comforting to know my family all stay close by, not that I ask them for help unless He leads me to. But because everything is falling into place so easily, I know my Heavenly Husband wants to take me out of my comfort zone and take me somewhere I am going to be completely uncomfortable (my marriage crisis happened there so there is a lot of bad memories), but I know He will help me and be with me throughout this and again, I know this is all part of His plan and me and my Heavenly Husband will create new beautiful memories there.