Although my relationship with my children are not broken at the moment, it has been more than a year that I only saw them over weekends, and being a weekend mom is different than being a full-time mom. So I feel He is leading me to this course to heal any damage that has been done to our relationship when I move closer and will become a full time mother again. I have also noticed some things in my daughter that is of concern and I feel this course will give me the Biblical Principals and wisdom to deal with it in a way that will strengthen and not damage our relationship. What I will learn from this course can also be applied to all the relationships in my life.
The first chapter, My Beloved, taught me to surrender each relationship to Him and His plan and purpose for that relationship in my life. To not rely on worldly ways to try and heal or improve relationships or to use tough love when dealing with somebody in sin. To not run to counsellors or “experts” to try and fix relationships, which will only destroy relationships further by digging into the past and talk about our “feelings” that will only lead to more destruction and resentment.
God is able to restore and heal any relationship, no matter how hopeless it seems. Although it might be difficult and heart-breaking to go through this situation, God wants to help us and to bless us
Miracles can happen, when we choose to enter the narrow gate with zealous obedience. We need to appoint the Lord as our Mighty Counsellor and use His Word as our ultimate guide. We must turn to the source of true healing, our Great Physician. He is the only One that knows the answers we need. If we pray and listen to Him through His Word, He can lead us through to the victory
His purpose in these trails are for us to draw closer to Him and allowing Him to transform us more closely into His image. God allows trails for our good. We must believe this truth and look for all the good that is happening in the midst of our trials. All we need to do is to“Be still and know that I am God . . .” (Ps. 46:10). And then follow God’s way.
The enemy is interested in destroying every relationship that is important to us, and we should never believe his lies that our broken relationships are hopeless. We must follow God’s plan for our life’s. Instead of believing the lies, we must start to praise the Lord—since hopeless situations are when God shows up.
To restore our relationships, we need to work with God, search His Word to find the answers and guidance we need and have faith!
Sin destroys relationships, whether it’s our sins or loved one’s falling into sin. We must understand how He created each relationship and then follow His plan and principles for that relationship, using the Bible as our ultimate guide.
We must commit ourselves to believe that God can do the impossible without complaining how long the journey takes or how many valleys He guides us through. To focus all our attention on Him and His Word and His promises to us.
Please share what you have learned from Chapter 1, My Beloved in the comments
I went and searched a little more of the verse “the eyes of the Lord move to and fro throughout the earth that He may strongly support those whose heart is completely His’ and then comes the next
“you, have done a foolish thing and from now on you will be at war”
If your heart is not completely His you will continue on with conflict, fighting, struggle, war and will head through the gate of destruction.
He tells us to go through the narrow gate, to love God, to choose God, to obey Him and to choose life so that my family and I may live. Why would we choose death and a curse? I want to be the “few who find it” through the narrow path.
One of my favorite scriptures during my first time with a restored marriage was this verse used in this chapter
‘Truly I say to you, if you have faith, and do not doubt, you shall not only do what was done . . . but even if you say to this mountain, “Be taken up and cast into the sea,” it shall happen’” (M21:21).
It doesn’t say it “might” happen, it says it shall (must) as long as you have faith in Him and do not doubt Him!
I am one who has a hard time not knowing what the outcome will be in certain situations. When it happens I can not help but worry if I don’t trust in Him. My HL has been helping me in this area of surrendering everything to Him, letting go and not panicking. It’s getting easier and I love the feeling of giving my worries and problems to Him, I sometimes can feel the burden and anxiety just flow out of my body. So freeing. 🕊
Thank you Hope for sharing, yes He will give us the desires of our hearts, IF we delight ourselves in Him and our hearts are completely His. It is wonderful to know that He is looking to support us, if we seek Him only.
‘Truly I say to you, if you have faith, and do not doubt, you shall not only do what was done . . . but even if you say to this mountain, “Be taken up and cast into the sea,” it shall happen’” We shouldn’t be double minded, unstable in all our ways. J1:8
“Be still and know that I am God…” (Ps4610) together with “The Lord will fight for you, and you can be still.” carried me through a lot of trails.
Adina I really believe that God is using you to bless other people yesterday I was so frustrated with my FH and I won’t lie I still am but after reading this not as much I was asking myself how much longer is it gonna take for us to coparent normally and I was losing hope but I know that God is good and I’ve seen the progress he is making in my life when it comes to my relationship with my children, so thank you for posting this. It really uplifted me and I pray for God to continue to work in your life 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💕
My dear Tiffany I know exactly what you are going through, getting frustrated with a FH while co-parenting. But what worked for me, and it changed our co-parenting relationship totally, is win without words and a gently and quiet spirit. For example; when my fh would send me a mail to arrange schedules for school holidays, I would reply that he must decide and that I trust him to draw up a fair schedule. The first time was scary, but then I would go and talk to my HH and tell Him my desires for the holidays. When I then received his reply and schedule, it was all but one time exactly as me and my HH discussed. The one time it wasn’t, HH had better plans for us and blessed me and the children with a few days away. The same when he wants them on one of my nights, I just agree. And it took a while but I now I am able to do it from the heart, with His help, without saying yes but being upset on the inside. What HH already did in your relationship with your children is amazing, please continue with the RYR course with us and come and share what you’ve learned from every lesson every Wednesday.
This book changed my life forever!!!! Sometimes we are not even aware that we have a root of bitterness towards someone in our family!!! This chapter help me when I was completely broken when my teenage daughter Bethis left home when she was 15 to live with my FH!!
I praise the Lord for the miracle He did in our lives and the wisdom He gave to cope with the situation!!!
Your testimony with Bethia is what He used to led me to do the RYR course my dear Isabella. Like I said my relationship with my children are not broken, but being a part time mom did change the dynamic. And dealing with my almost teenage daughter that is going through some things is new for me, and I feel like I have to renew my mind with His principals and plans for relationships to deal with this and like you also said, be a epistle in your relationships with family.
Wow, zo geweldig, gisteren voor het eerst zins een lange tijd een les gelezen. gemediteerd en mijn hart uitgestort in een Log. Zo verversend om op deze manier intiem te zijn met mijn Geliefde. Eerlijk gezegd heb ik de structuur van het lezen van de lessen en je hart uitstorten gemist. Ik besef hoe veel het nodig is om jezelf te blijven voeden wil je dienstbaar zijn aan anderen. Wil je anderen tot Hem trekken.
Sinds begin van dit jaar is de relatie met mijn kinderen aan werkelijk herstel begonnen. De conflict relaties die er zijn geweest met collega’s is Hij ook aan het veranderen. En ik sinds enkele dagen praten mijn voormalige man en ik weer fysiek en telefonisch met elkaar. Het is werkelijk waar zoals de les zegt dat als je alles aan Hem overgeeft en jij loslaat dan kan Hij doen wat alleen Hij kan doen. En ja het is soms pijnlijk, frustrerend en uitdagend om niet voor junior HG te spelen, want Hij heeft onze hulp niet nodig.
Ik vind het fijn om samen met andere gelijkgestemde bruiden de lessen te doen. En ben in volle verwachting naar al de getuigenissen die ik ter bemoediging zal lezen binnenkort. Veel liefs toegewenst.