I Was “Wronged”

♕ Today's Promise: “Actually, then, it is already a defeat for you, that you have lawsuits with one another. Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be defrauded? On the contrary, you yourselves wrong and defraud, and that your brethren.” 1 Corinthians 6:7–8

~ Kathy in Missouri

☊ PRAISE Audio

Dear Brides, nothing is worth fighting over. Surrender your future to your Husband and let Him be your Provider and Protector. He will not let you down. Trust Him fully.

I am continually thankful for reminders that my HH (Heavenly Husband) is my provider and that He values peace. He has called me to be at peace, and it would never have been worth it to fight over money with my FH (former husband). Especially since I had said many times that I would, "take him for everything he had," if he ever brought another woman into the picture. It gave me a powerful opportunity to show some of the ways in which I have changed. I am dertermined to do what pleases my God, and I trust Him with all of my heart. I know that at the very minimum, not fighting over money kept my daughter from suffering any brokenness than she already deals with. I know that God doesn't waist anything, and I know that He will continue to use my obedience for my good, and that of my family.

I was encouraged again not to resist the evil done to me. And not just not resist, but pray for opportunities to bless - and then follow through. There are no more legal issues to haggle over. Unless my FH (former husband) comes back to take back the alimony he offered - to which I would simply agree.

My bigger trials come through my adult daughter. She is completely aware of all the things going on and is bitter and unforgiving toward her dad. I have taken full responsibility for the destruction of our family, and she sees the very real changes in me, but she's just not having it. I have encouraged her to forgive, insisted that she speaks respectfully, and reminded her that her Heavenly Father will never leave her or forsake her, but she has her own pain that is oozing out of every thought and feeling toward her dad and the OW (other woman).

My FH (former husband) is throwing around accusations that it's my fault that our daughter won't have anything to do with the OW and that I am purposefully trying to turn her against them. The truth is that my adult daughter is much wiser than I was and she has her own thoughts and feelings about their relationship. I have encouraged her toward her dad, even though it's reminescent of the "panic" that Michelle talks about setting in.

But I surrender those thoughts and feelings every day to my HH (Heavenly Husband), and remind us both that I trust Him with all of my heart and won't rely on my own understanding. I have begged Him to protect her from the pain that will come if she is exposed to what is going on down there, but surrendered her protection into His careful hands, knowing that her heart and relationship with her Heavenly Father is the most important thing in her whole life, and that He will use whatever He needs to to turn her heart to Himself. Even devestating pain, to which I can testify. And yes, it will be worth it.

I will continually speak about the Lord as my Provider and wise Counselor in every area of my life. I know I have "little sisters" who are watching me, and how I live and move and have my being in Him. They are cheering for me! But can't imagine the same relationship with the Lord that I am choosing, and experiencing. So I will continue to encourage them toward Him. To make Him first in their lives - ahead of husbands and children and even their own desires because He is where the actual peace and joy are.

Dear Brides, for most of us, this is a journey that will take much longer than we want, but will take just as long as is required for us to surrender to the One who truly loves us. Trust the words in this chapter ["Wonderful Counselor"], they will lead you toward the One who is longing to be gracious to you.

“Actually, then, it is already a defeat for you, that you have lawsuits with one another. Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be defrauded? On the contrary, you yourselves wrong and defraud, and that your brethren” 1 Corinthians 6:7–8

I haven't shared this part of my testimony with anyone yet. Most people assume I had an attorney for my divorce. I suppose I have finally learned the lesson of a quiet spirit. But this rings in my mind. While I thanked my FH (former husband) for being so generous with my settlement, it would occassionally rise up in me to be angry for the ways in which he "wronged" me, thinking I was ignorant. But this promise from my LORD, reminds me that what he did, doesn't matter. What matters is that I did what was right in the eyes of the LORD. And although in some ways I was "wronged", I truly was blessed with more than enough and I see and am thankful every day for the ways He has taken care of me and provided for me! He has given me such a beautiful testimony of His provision!

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