Hello, So I was reading one of the testimonies and a couple of things that was said got me a little confused and wondered what it meant. The lady said this:
” Foolishly, I kept going to church without my husband because I thought that was the way to get closer to God”. And down the line she also said this:
” You see, I was in church and involved in ministries but without the spiritual cover of my husband as my spiritual leader. Yes, I learned this danger in RMI but I ignored it, thinking it couldn’t affect me”.
Is she saying that we are not to go to church without our husbands? What if my husband doesn’t go to church anymore? Am I to stop going as well? She said she learned of this danger in RMI. I have not come across it yet, so what danger is she talking about?
I really want to know the thoughts on this. Please help me understand this topic.
Thank you very much.
Hello dear, I see that you are beginning your restoration journey, in the HopeAtLast blog you will find a lot of help for this stage of your journey https://hopeatlast.com/blog/ because of the question you ask my Husband reminded me of that lesson to the one referred to by that bride in her testimony: https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d17-my-spiritual-leader-part-1/ and https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d18-my-spiritual-leader -part-2/ I hope He answers your questions 🙂
These are fantastic resources, Anastasia, but what we hope is that we will share more of our hearts, and our own experiences, which equals testimonies and a lively encouraging conversation. I’m not able to join in right now, but I will be back tomorrow to see what everyone has posted.
Thanks for the correction Erin.
When I started my restoration journey, I thought I HAD to go to church, we just recently moved to another town and I went to look for a church to belong to. I was still married at that time, my fh didn’t go with me or led me there, if he attended church it was another church in another town with his mother or the ow. So I took going to church and taking the children to Sunday school in my own hands, without my then husband as my spiritual leader, although he insisted that I take the children to Sunday School.
I was already working through the courses at that time and going to church on Sundays. Then when I got to the two lessons Anastasia mentioned above, I realized how wrong I was. I took my (ex) husband’s position as spiritual leader out of his hands. He was my spiritual leader and was the one who should have led me to a new church and took us to church. But since he didn’t do that and filed for divorce, I was not supposed to go without him as my spiritual leader.
Now that I am divorced and without a husband as a spiritual leader, I have my HH as my spiritual leader and I spend my Sunday’s with Him.
To read more about this subject, please go to: https://loveatlast.org/milestone-4-let-go-church/
https://loveatlast.org/fellowship-hh/
So when my marriage struggles started l was desperate to go to church and at the time my EH was totally uninterested. I read the chapters shared in the comments and l felt convicted to make room for my eh to become our spiritual leader so l stopped going to church. Not going actually ended up being a big blessing because now l needed to feed myself and my daughter spiritually . I spent a lot of time reading and journaling and during that period l work thru C1 & 2. Read the bible more too. That’s when the most healing took place in my heart and life 🙏
Long story short when my eh came home & we were restored he started taking us to church and started playing in the worship team again.
Fast forward a few years eh stopped taking us to church but doesn’t bother me at all because l found my HH and love spending Sunday’s with Him.
Atarah, as the hope at last minister Yvonne and I saw that there was a comment from a fairly new member who needs some special support and life coaching. What immediately comes to mind are the lessons and a wise woman and who should be the spiritual leader but I will leave that up to you. We’ve left her comment as pending, giving her extra time to read over everything so she can fully understand and get the answers directly from her husband, and not based on our opinion.
Since you commented Atarah and so did Adina you both have the comment from apeace in your inbox thread. 💗💗💗
But my husband suggested his two create a new post, and maybe start a podcast on this very topic and the beauty of being His bride and Adina, maybe what we as his brides do on Sundays.
If I were to start the conversation right away, I realize that what I waited all week to experience pales in comparison to when I began spending my Sundays with my Husband and what is now every single morning. That same feeling and coming away from what the pastor taught that I hung onto and meditated on… This is exactly what I have every single day of the year! You know I never thought of it that way until now. Thank you apeace!!
Thank you Erin, I have been SG about this and will share more about my testimony, what I have learned and how we spend our Sunday’s.
Have you?? THAT’S FANTASTIC, great confirmation. Were you able to see the comment we have pending? Look in your inbox so the questions and concerns apeace has can be put to rest and help her along her RJ and onto her ALJ “Abundant Life Journey”
Yes I have seen her comment and I will SG to help me to address her concerns, and He placed it in my heart to post it on Sunday!
Thanks Erin im so glad we can rather give apeace the time she needs to seek her HH on this. I will SG and with His help also record a podcast with this topic.
Apeace we all completely understand your misgivings because we had the same questions and felt the exact same! Well l sure did! These were my concerns and maybe the other ladies too.. they can share if so.. I could not imagine leaving church.. how shocking..
I had to go to my HH to find out from Him about all this when l read these resources.. and that is why we will always encourage you to do the same. Apeace l know l don’t have all the answers.. what l shared is my experiences but in those experiences was questions and many back & forth with HH as He led me. When l left church it as NOT easy.. not at all.. it was hard but for me it ended up being a blessing because HE led me 🙏 so l hope you will Seek God too for your life and your situation 🤗