When my journey started with my marriage falling apart, all I was able to focus on was what my former husband did and that was also true for all my relationships that fell apart with friends, family and at work. If we go through any trail that breaks us, we tend to put the blame on the person involved or the situation.
After He led me to find RMI and I started working though the courses and books, I began to see myself for who and what I was and my contribution to the destruction of my marriage and many other situations in my life. I was able to see how I acted in my workplace with my superiors, my parents, family and friends. I started to understand that the destruction of my marriage was what the Lord used to get my attention and I had to be willing to get on the Potter’s Wheel to allow my Beloved to change me into an beautiful vessel ready to be used by Him.
No it is not easy if the Lord uses your marriage or a child to bring you to this place where you have to look at yourself, but if that is what our Beloved chooses to change us, who are we to argue with Him?
Through our trails and relationship crisis, we have our Lord, our Beloved who is with us and is there holding us and the other person in His hands. It is comforting to know that He cares just as much about the person who He is using to change us as He cares about us, so we can leave them in His loving hands to also work in them.
What I’ve learned in this lesson (THE POTTER AND THE CLAY) that is very important, is to be humble. To stop arguing with the person who is hurting you and blaming them for everything, take all the blame on yourself, because blaming the other person and arguing with them will only proof that you are full of pride and self-righteousness. Pride and self-righteousness will do more damage and will just push the other person further away. Our Beloved hates pride and self-righteousness. Instead ask His forgiveness, there is a beautiful prayer that you can pray in this chapter based on Psalms 51:2-4. Seek His face and turn from your wicked ways.
On this journey we can rest in the fact that we have our Beloved and He catches all our tears and puts them in a bottle. Only cry at His feet and spend your time wisely by remaining in His word and renewing your mind daily. Do not look at what you see, but believe that He is working and the restoration you are seeking will manifest at His appointed time.
Please share what He showed you in the lesson in the comments below.
Thank you for sharing dear Adina. I wish I had found RMI years ago, here I have to admit for so long I saw myself as the “poor victim”. I praise the Lord for RMI, that the Lord is using all the courses and so many posts to talk to me, where I of course have to repent before the Lord of my self-righteousness.
Yes Janine, this journey leads us to look in the mirror, to see ourselves for who we are and our own sins. It makes me think of the verse: “Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.”
Some things I took from this lesson is that I will continue to battle if my focus is on others, my situation or circumstances. I must focus on the Lord and leave my troubles with Him. He is using these situations to bring me closer to Him. He has been making me more aware of my complaints and self-pity by turning them into praise. He considers the way we treat others to be the way we treat Him. So be humble, don’t look at others faults, be a peacemaker and treat each other with love and kindness.
Yes, Hope it is difficult to not look at others when we are being wronged. I still find myself sometimes blaming others, but PTL He always reminds me that I have to leave them and what they are doing in His hands, and focus on Him and look at my own sins. He loves them so much and He is also concerned about their salvation, so we can trust Him to start and finish the good work in them as well. I am not perfect by all means and do slip and fall sometimes, but I now have my Beloved who started a good work in me and is always with me and picks me up when I fall. We have to be humble enough to admit our faults and take it to our HH to forgive us and help us to overcome the battles we face with our flesh.