“A Friend’s Love is Contagious”
“Look to Him and shine,
So shame will never contort your faces.”
—Psalm 34:5
This week’s Salvation Story is about Laurel's sister, London, and what is so near and dear to my heart with this story is how God saw fit to use one of my dearest and sweetest friends, Dawn. I met Dawn for the first time when I spoke in Fresno, California. On the RMIOU campus, I have a picture of a few of the ladies who attended, and even while I was speaking, I noticed her sweet, smiling face that was radiant. You’ll see Dawn wearing a blue sweater (near the back left).
After the meeting, I met up with Dawn who had offered to drive me to her home in San Jose, let me stay the night, then take me to the airport early the next morning. From that very short time together, we became the closest and dearest of friends (to this day), and it was Dawn who God used to introduce Laurel’s sister, London, to the Lord.
From the time Laurel and London were young, they had one of the worst cases of sibling rivalry I’d ever seen. As a matter of fact, London was all set to come to live with us in Missouri and go to the university, but because Laurel came to live with us, London chose another state for only that reason! Looking for other universities that featured her major in Linguistics, San Jose State University was said to be an excellent alternative. So my brother called me, saying he knew I had “friends” all over the world (only God could manage that, and also that my brother would admit this, being a typical older brother 😉 and asked if I knew anyone in the area. Immediately, I envisioned the warm, cozy twin bed I’d slept in and the warmth of Dawn's home, so I said Yes, but I knew this was a lot to ask.
Looking back, I believe I didn’t email but chose to call Dawn, but one fact I do remember, I warned Dawn to make absolutely sure it was the Lord who wanted her to do this! That she must promise not to do this for me or base it on our friendship. I also made sure Dawn knew about my demanding and in-your-face brother—before I would allow her to accept. A few days later, Dawn said she did sense it was Him, and to confirm this, before my niece London came to live with her, she took in another foreign university student from China!
Almost the year had ended, and London was preparing to leave to return home when Dawn told me how she felt she had let me down. I was shocked and told her she didn’t let me down. I asked if she thought I had expected her to lead my niece to the Lord. She said, “Yes, of course,” when I was able to explain that all I had hoped she would do was to LOVE my niece with the same love she’d always given to me. And that London’s salvation was not her job or responsibility, that it was the Lord's job, not hers. Hearing her let out a sigh, she responded by saying how relieved she was.
It wasn’t long after, maybe a week or two, when I heard the news that London had come home from a youth group meeting dancing and jumping excitedly around the living room, saying, almost singing, that she’d accepted the Lord into her heart and how happy she was!
This proves that when we let go and let God do what He alone can do, then simply trust the Lord, He has the room needed to fulfill His plan and promise for our family.
The biggest shock was when London’s parents saw the change in both their daughters—when she got home she embraced her sister, Laurel, telling her how happy she was, then pulled her into her room to tell her what had happened!!
Way, way back when the Lord told me how He would come into this family, through the girls, I heard myself say that when it happened (notice I never said “if”?), the change in their daughters would be what got my brother and sister-in-law's attention. Though I’d heard about this amazing change, it wasn’t until Tara was there in Japan and she came back to say she was constantly in awe of how close these sisters were. It’s not just that they stopped fighting and bickering, but that they could be seen hugging each other all the time, with arms always wrapped around the other or walking holding hands (customary for close friends in Japan).
For me, the biggest proof was how gorgeous London became. To me, she always looked a bit too much like my brother 😉 but once she met the Lord face-to-face, she was glowing and is now simply gorgeous!!!
“When I needed the Lord, I looked for Him; I called out to Him, and He heard me and responded. He came and rescued me from everything that made me so afraid. Look to Him and shine, so shame will never contort your faces” (Psalm 34:4-5).
NOTE: Before my brother and his wife ever entrusted me with his two daughters or would entrust one of my friends, he made it clear that he knew I wasn’t like the other -in-your-face bible-thumping people he hated and trusted my friends were the same. Instead of ever trying to share the Lord with my brother, I lived it. Throughout the years, the Lord gave me many times to water the seed sown by simply being me: loving others the way He has loved me for so many glorious years.
UPDATE: An update on London: once unmarried, working as a university professor with her dad (my brother Tom, who I believe will be the next to surrender his life to the Lord unless my sister-in-law, Keiko, beats him husband to it. 🙂 is now married with an adorable boy and trying for a second baby!
RESTORED: Dawn was blessed with a RESTORED marriage! Be sure to read My Dearest Friend RESTORED!