Remember last week's discussion Sara started https://loveatlast.org/they-dont-have-him/ that resulted in 13 commentsâmaybe the most so far? Well, even though I can't find it, I believe we agreed this is such an epidemic that we needed to discuss this topic further. And since I didn't see any NEW posted praise for today... Taa Daa!!! here's something I believe we can all relate to and ponder.
It's crazy when you stop and think about how much we go to someone OTHER than the ONE who is right there with us and knows ALL, not just some, of the answers we need. Direction or understanding, solutions, and very ofter (if we wait), He'll just handle it completely for us!
The main thing we all need is LOVE. We sing about it, long for it, and are miserable when we don't have enough of it. Yet, we look to and even EXPECT that other people have love to give us in return for our love. I'm here to acknowledge to myself and the world that's just RIDICULOUS. Almost ALL the people in this world are emotionally bankrupt âoperating in the red, overdrawnâentirely unable to give anything we need back to us. Instead, He's plan is to be the ONLY ONE to give us what we need, pure love that's more precious than gold so that we can shower it on others. And if we are RICH, why do we need someone to pay what little they DON'T have?
Okay, now take time to ponder this and maybe even think of someone you were expecting something back from and share a comment. Oh, I've got lots but I'll wait to hear from the rest of you...
Wow wow I needed to read this Chapter now, thank you dear Erin.
I remember years ago asking my eh for money and to provide for our kids and even fasted for it, but my eh refused to pay and still does but then our wonderful Lord said I must stop asking and stop relying on my eh to provide and the day I stopped the Lord provided and still does.
And this whole post the Lord spoke so much to me now. I felt so overwhelmed today at work because they mentioned in a meeting yesterday they must give me less work because they are overloading me but today they just gave me more and I complained so much but dit not go to the true Source of everything. And yes ouch if it no longer bothers me, my true Source of everything will change it for me. I had to read this: Do you still experience pain, shame, guilt, condemnation, and tears? Then, dear one, you simply do not have enough of Him…
Funny story. Way back when my EH refused to pay child support and went so far as to quit his job and the OW supported them my Husband asked WHY I wanted to be indebted to someone other than HIM. HE was more than able to take care of me and our children. Thatâs when I hoped my EH would never pay for my needs so my true Love đ would be who I was grateful to.
Interestingly GOD KNOWS how it was possible but at one point I was who have THEM food and gas money when both my EH and the OW were reduced to a loaf of bread.
Erin, i can share that my brother and his girlfriend had pushed me aside, rejecting me and were being so unkind to me last year. At times I wanted to feed into my flesh and ask why and defend myself. Thankfully I learned to do the opposite because that would only make things worse. Through that lesson “They Don’t Have It”, I learned I couldn’t expect things that they did not have! I had to kill the flesh, die to self and only let the Lord fill me up with His love â¤ď¸ and His acceptance. I was able to give back that patient and kind love to them no matter how they treated me and things have turned around! We now spend time together most Sundays all of us as a family as if nothing ever happened! I give Him all the glory for teaching me how to live with Him first in my heart and give His love to others!
What an amazing testimony, and just look at how everything changed just by simply trusting His promises!! Just now itâs like I had a revelation that when people are bankrupt, and then somebody comes expecting, or even demanding more, how else would they act other than to basically lock us out? Incredible thank you so much, Liora!!!
Completely truth!! I experience a lot of interesting issues with my brother in law, and reading this chapter help me a lot!! But want really changed my mind was this amazing course:
https://loveatlast.org/ryr/
Noe even though He is still mean to me, I just release my pride and pain to the Lord, I am able to show love and to help him, without expecting something!!
Our Lord really changes everything!!
Itâs the most INCREDIBLE thing about being His bride and continually showered, no BATHED đ in HIS LOVE đ Not only do we not NEED the LOVE đ or praise or even kindness from anyoneâbut Iâm simply too full to consume it. Itâs like eating gourmet food until youâre sooo full and being offered store bought packaged desserts. You kindly smile and politely sample.
Woe to the way we used to be when we were starving and we needed to consume after begging pathetically to people we believed rich but were just as poor and starving.
O yes, I have learned this difficult lesson so many times before in my live. But I have learned to apply this one principle and always remind myself that “They don’t have it”. When my fh stopped paying a lot of things just after the custody and while the children were still with me to finish the school year, He supplied in all our needs in miraculous ways. And now He sometimes uses my fh to supply something without me asking for anything, or He uses somebody else. But since the custody case was finalized, during which I truly learned to apply “win without words” and “gentle and quiet spirit” and embracing “they don’t have it” He turned so many things around, like the co-parenting relationship I have with my fh. When we do have to communicate it is peaceful because I still apply these principles. Sometimes it is difficult to apply the principles with some people, but when you SG and apply the principles and remind yourself that they don’t have it, He turns it around for good.
Adina, I cannot tell you how much what youâre saying here and youâre Custody RJN has helped me be able to minister calmly, and with wisdom to a young man who is facing divorce, and whom Iâm very close to. Just about everything youâve written so far I was able to assure him that he was doing the right thing i.e. not representing himself with an attorney and being agreeable. 50/50 Custody and child support was also being decided. When we finished, I just assured him that no matter what it says, on the divorce papers that through love and kindness, and simply trusting God that everything would work out for good. On the day he was going to court my husband let me to just leave a voice note with promised to take with him. âAll things work together for good to those who love GOD and I called according to HIS purposeâ âAnd my GOD shall supply all my needs according to his riches in Christ Jesusâ đđť
Thank you all for sharing and Erin this lesson “They Don’t Have It” was one of the most important for me and still helps me. As a child, and even for many years of my adult life, I had the necessity to please others so that they could love me. I just wanted everybody to love me, and it was so stressful the need I had to satisfy people’s needs so I could be loved. When I begin this journey and found my Husband, this was an extremely hard area that He worked on and still does, reminding me that I don’t need people’s love when I have His. It was like chains had fallen from my arms and I finally could be free, when I understood that people cannot give me what they don’t have, and that actually I had it all from Him.