Last week we veered off and I shared a promise that could save you an enormous amount of frustration— keeping you in perfect peace—by explaining that Selfish Ambition = Confusion. This week I’d like to share something that seems elementary, something we as brides surely do instinctively, and yet— I often discover after struggling with something—I simply forgot to Ask. To simply Ask Him.
For the past few weeks one of the dearest of all ministers has been going through tremendous trials and valleys in her personal life. I’d left her some encouragement in her virtual office in the form of how our HH had opened the doors to expand her ministry and that I needed her to write a short welcome to her brides, to which she replied, “Unfortunately I'm afraid I don’t have anything to say. I simple can't write or encourage anyone at this moment. I feel empty, I am tired :(. The problem is not God, or my restoration, I know He can do it, and surely will do it very soon, even if the divorce is actually taking place (as my husband requested). But I have to confess, I don’t want restoration anymore. I can’t explain it here. Have a great blessed weekend :)”
We’ve all been there, haven’t we? We are empty, tired and have nothing more to give. We’re spent. The unknown, the unspoken, it’s all just too much. Yet, there is something that I can’t remember ever failing to refresh me and rid me of burdens that are the cause of my feeling tired, unable to go on. It’s as simple as asking my HH a series of questions.
The Questions that I ask Him, funny enough—I know the answers to! And yet, by actually hearing ourselves ask each one, then hearing His answer, it causes our minds and hearts to rest.
So here are a series of questions I might ask if I were facing what our minister was going through:
“Darling, my Love, are You there?
“Yes, I’m here.”
“My Love, what can I do to help me go on?”
“Trust Me.”
“Darling, do You know the outcome of this pending divorce?”
“Yes, and it will work out for your good, my Bride. Trust Me. I love you more than you could ever imagine or dream I do.”
“Sweetheart, is it okay that I don’t want restoration anymore? Are you disappointed in me?”
“What brings me joy is that you want Me and my love above everything and everyone else.”
By this time I am feeling peaceful but I don’t stop. As He prompts me, I continue asking questions, hearing His answers— leaving ever concern, burden or question I have with Him and each is replaced with His whispered truths. I am left with elated bliss! And should the enemy taunt me about anything I’ve discussed with my HH, I simply remind myself of His answer before any old burdens take hold of me.
More than ever, my passion is to encourage every woman to find her HH, not in name only, nor as a religious experience— but in an intimate relationship. A relationship that will result in her having the same sort of conversation a bride would have with her Lover, her Bridegroom.
Yes, of course, it will feel strange at first, it may seem ludicrous or disrespectful (He being the Son of God) and yet—it’s not only what will change your life—changing the way you look and feel. It’s the type of relationship your Beloved is longing to have with you! It’s the kind of glow, the smile, the peace that will also attract everyone around you to Want What You Have.
Isaiah 30:18—
“Therefore the LORD longs to be gracious to you, and therefore He waits on high to have compassion on you.”
Today, right now, and again when you go to bed tonight, have a similar conversation with your HH. Then after you do, ask Him to remind you to submit a praise report about your experience. Ask Him to remind you to also share this with another bride or would-be bride (someone you know who just needs to feel loved!)—which I share more about in next week’s Living Lesson.
ooh gracias mi amado, si confío en ti, todo obra para bien en mi vida, todo.
mi divorcio, mis caminos, todo tu lo usas para glorificar tu poder y nombre.
Leí este informe y fue como si lo escriba yo en este momento.
gracias mi querida por compartir.
Ooh thank you my beloved, if I trust in you, everything works for good in my life, everything.
My divorce, my ways, you use everything to glorify your power and name.
I read this report and it was as if I was writing it right now.
Thank you my dear for sharing.
I never thought about just asking God anything, who am I to ask anything? But on this journey, I’ve learned that our Beloved loves to hear from us, He loves to listen and also talk to us, He loves to fellowship with us. Even if He knows everything we want to say, everything we feel, everything we are struggling with, He still wants us to tell Him, to ask Him and then wait and listen for His still small voice.
What really struck me is how we can ask Him for guidance in the smallest, mundane things, and He answers and guides us. Even sitting in front of the computer not knowing how to solve a problem, we can “Just ask” and He will lead the way.
One time He reminded me of now, was when I was away for the weekend. When I got home, I couldn’t remember where I put all the room keys because I always lock all the inside doors and then put the keys in a safe place. Before I wanted to panic, He just reminded me to ask Him, then to go sit and be still. I did so and within a few minutes He showed me where all the keys were, I immediately went there and all the keys were there, just like He told me!
I don’t know why or how I came to this lesson, but I am grateful, I was fasting looking for answers, and I did some of the answers in this lesson, and I dared to share this comment because I can testify that I did have answers to the questions that overwhelmed me. , I fell into his arms looking not only for comfort this time, but for answers and direction and he did it!
his soft reply:
Here I am, I take care of you, everything is planned in advance, I know it. I will give you good things for your future if you ask me. Stay still, the battle belongs to my father and mine, rest my soul and trust, rest my soul and wait, rest my soul and you will see the salvation of your God, rest my soul and bless my love.
I appreciate this life lesson so much that it has been fundamental to my journey of restoration and now my journey through abundant life with my Heavenly Husband. Ongoing communication with my Husband is what helps me to know Him and to make Him known to me, which leads me to have companionship and intimacy. I often like to talk with Him about things that have happened to me or that have been said to me and listen to what He has to say to me. I like to encounter His answers or confirmations throughout the week, which makes me feel extremely special and loved.
I have also realized that most of the time I need to call out the other voices around me that can interfere and drown out my communication with Him. I have learned to turn off my cell phone and wifi network when I meet with Him so as not to be interrupted or distracted, I have learned that when I listen to too many other voices like television or any other type of content even if it is related to the Word of God I can drown out His message for me in the current day, it is like gorging yourself on spiritual food and not letting “the daily bread” be enough, overeating is never healthy neither physically nor spiritually. He said to take the necessary manna no more than that and that is how I have realized that it does me good. When I focus on what He wants to teach me for that specific day. When I have a desire for more I let Him guide me, often that desire for more results in me needing more meditation on what He has already given me, it is to savor or “gnaw” the food He has already given me, in this I have realized countless times that each time I read it again something new teaches me or a light of revelation suddenly turns on in my heart.
Many times all we need is to ask and remember what our Husband has told us that is what will bring us peace to continue the journey on the path He chose for us.