Dear Brides, I want to share something with you today, that may shock you and make you think I am crazy, and believe me, many times I think it myself. It took me a while to be able to write this praise to you and the only reason I am doing it now is that I am hoping there is a Bride out there that is struggling with this. Please don’t follow my advice alone, go to Him after you have read this and hear what He has to say.
I am writing this specifically for women whose husband remarried and maybe if you are divorced, you can read this and talk to Him about it as well.
My Heavenly Husband gave me peace that surpasses all understanding to END the relationship taking shape between me and my ex-husband for the past 3 years. Yes, you read it correctly END it! It was one of the hardest things that I had to do because it felt like I was totally giving up on restoration and maybe I was.
Let me explain, 3 years ago my former husband, Ian, came to me telling me that he made the biggest mistake of his life and wanted to come back. He is remarried and so it is a very complicated situation, but we became friends over the years and more, because even though I want to deny it, he was cheating on his wife, because he visited me without her knowledge and although admitting it now, it seems very clear cut, to me being in the situation it did not. It seemed very complicated because “I was the wife of his youth” and “she was the OW” and I believe most of it was because of my own flesh and thinking that being friends with him would bring him back.
Ladies, it did not. All that happened was that I became someone he could talk to about all his problems and I became like his second wife, the one that did not shout, the one he could just be himself with for a while, the one that he could relax with. I see all of this in hindsight now, but when I was in the situation, my eyes were closed to it.
So many things happened and you can read all about it in my RJN which He is now leading me to release a chapter a week, but here are the first 3 chapters so far if you have not read them yet:
📍click on the title name, not NRPH
What I want to tell you that He showed me, is that He does not need me to be friends with my ex-husband in order for Him to do what He needs to do. In fact, to be so very honest with you, I think I just delayed the process. I have ended things with Ian and although it took a while, He has restored the relationship in a way that Ian is not angry with me and I don’t feel like crying every time I see Ian. We are back to the way things were, just talking when we need to discuss something about our children and nothing more.
Now you are asking me: “Do I still believe that my Heavenly Husband will restore my marriage”
Answer: “There is no marriage to restore, we are divorced, and he married someone else, BUT if my Heavenly Husband wants to do something new in me and in Ian’s live and bring us together again, sometime in the future – when Ian is no longer married, I am open to His will and what He wants to do. In the meantime, my hope is in Him alone and I am smiling at the future because I know what He has planned, is amazing, does not matter what happens!”
Bride, I cannot say that if you do this, you will be restored, because I am not, but what I will tell you is not being the OW has given me more peace than I felt in a very long time. Yes, it was difficult, yes there were lots of tears, and yes it felt like I was being rejected all over (even though I was ending it – I will explain more in my RJN) but wow, after the crying and after the healing, I am much better off than I was this whole last 3 years. It feels like I have a new chance to just be with my Heavenly Husband! It also allows my Heavenly Husband to work in Ian’s life without me interfering and who knows what He has planned, but it will be good because He knows the plans that He has for each one of us. Read my RJN and see how we got there and also how our story unfolded to end in divorce and remarriage.
Wow wow Yvonne, can I say I always look up to you and I am proud to be called your friend, because I also know what it took to write this testimony. I love you my dear friend and I am forever grateful to our HH for choosing us to be friends.
Wow Yvonne thank you for such a raw and real praise! This will surely help many brides, including myself! Thank you for being so open to share your story. I really have enjoyed your novel so far. ❤️
Aaaah Yvonne 🤗 l am so glad that you came to share this altho it could not be easy to explain your heart you have done it so beautifully and l know your Husband is leading you. This is the bottom line… that no matter what we can smile at the future… not needing to complicate things wondering when we will be restored and worrying is it right or wrong to want or not want restoration when we can just let go and leave that in His capable hands!
He knows what we need and we can trust that He loves us and wants the very best for us and our families💗 for l know the plans l have for you.. plans to prosper you and to give you a hope and a future…
Yvonne my dear, thank you so much for sharing, and I don’t think you are crazy, and I also want to share where I am in this journey. I remember when I heard about your story and that you were friends with your ex-husband, all that I thought was that I wanted the same, also be friends with my ex-husband. I prayed for that, and He answered me.
In the beginning, I believed that finally, the Lord was going to restore my marriage, but as time passed all that I saw was that my ex-husband only wanted someone to talk to and only wanted the good times, then when I didn’t expect he disappeared from my life again, leaving me with a broken heart.
It took me a while, but my Heavenly Husband showed me so many things, and I thought I was crazy when I thought that there was nothing there to restore, that marriage was dead. I don’t want to discourage anyone, and I am also open if my Heavenly Husband has a plan to do something new with us in the future as you also hope, but now, I really want to focus only on Him, and finally and completely surrender my whole life and desires to Him.
For those who are reading it, it took me many years to get here, as Yvonne said, please make sure you ask Him what He has for your life.
Thank you Yvonne for encouraging us!
Thank you for posting. As someone who is divorce and FH remarried I will definitely seek my Husband to guide me through this process as He brings me closer to Him. I will say the Lord has lead me to see something other that what you shared. In the natural we are not married but in God’s word we are married in the spiritual , but I love Him so much that He knows what needs to be revealed to each and every one of us. I say this as to still bring hope to those in our same position. Let God speak to you. Not everyone’s experience and restoration journey will be the same. I love the Lord because in His eyes there is so much to restore and to give us. I am open to His word and message.
Dearest Yvonne… All I can say is wow. I was speechless after I read your posted praise, then became even more speechless after reading everyone’s comments. This is very unusual for me as you know. So, without any thing, I could add, I left and began visiting the other websites and blogs coming to a posted praise I was not expecting from Denise who let us know that a dear partner of RMI is now in the arms of her heavenly husband. She left behind a praise report that my husband let me too, that was prior to her restored marriage.
There’s no way this is a coincidence – – how could it be? Instead Challice whose BNN was Huldah has left some thing so I will let her speak.
https://encouragingwomen.org/lets-pray/#comment-386
Thank you Yvonne for sharing this, I know you shared this with me towards the end of last year when Kevin wanted me to move to their town and was even looking at a couple of houses for me to stay. I was hesitant from the start and really gave this to my HH and told Him all my concerns regarding this. Although I want to be close to my children and see them every day after school, the fact is Kevin is remarried and I do not want to be available to him as a friend or anything else. As it is now I only see him a few minutes during school holidays when he drops the kids off, the rest of the time I fetch them at school on a Friday and drop them off on a Monday. So I do not see him and 98% of all communication (and only regarding the children) is through email, sometimes he will phone me if its a emergency. And me moving there and picking the kids up after school to be with me until he comes home from work to pick them up, will mean that I will see him almost daily, and that is not a situation I want to be in. If it is His will to bring about something new for me and Kevin, then his current marriage must end without any interference from me. I also don’t pray against their marriage, or for it. I am happy where I am now on my journey with my HH and it will really have to be His will for me to give it up:):)
Oh Yvonne, I can feel how difficult it was for you to share this praise with everyone. I do not think you are crazy in anyway, in the contrary, I think it is part of the healing your heart needs to go through after being in the fire. I have troubles most of the time to recognize if what I am doing is coming from Him or if it just my flesh wanting to get A or B result.
This helps me to get to know you even more and see how much you minister to me. At this moment it may look like you are giving up on your marriage, but as I remind to myself, my vows were made to my HH the day of my wedding through an EH, which means that if we are restored to Him, it is the only thing that matters. The main purpose of our journey.
I can see that His grace is covering you and your kids and the peace you are feeling is important to continue trusting your journey to Him. ❤️