Yesterday after the second time I said "I LIED" when talking to my younger sister, I realized that my Darling healed me! YES, HHM and so I am here to begin a new, possibly weekly post to encourage each of us to speak to our Husband to ASK how He has healed us. Why ask? Wouldn't we just "know"? Actually, it's not in our nature, is it?
We are fully aware when we are hurting and need healing, but once that pain or fear or whatever disappears, we often need it to be pointed out to us. Just like when I heard myself first type, I LIEDâmind you, it as also in CAPITAL lettersâthat I'd lied about not working until noon but explained I'd shut down and we'd FaceTime.
Then as we were talking, I heard myself "I LIED," and though I don't remember exactly what it was, I know it was something I said, but I'd forgotten the details.
You might think, "Well, that's not a lie," but here's the thing, being thought of as a liar and fearful I could easily slip into becoming a liar, still caused me shame and guilt and other forms of negative feelings to invade the Abundant Life my Beloved died to give me!
Here's 3C to read if you suffer from this too:
wLL 6 âAccuserâ https://loveatlast.org/living-lessons/week-6-accuser/
wLL 7 âShackled and Yokedâ https://loveatlast.org/living-lessons/week-7-shackled-and-yoked/
wLL 13 âFalse Guilt and Forgivenessâ https://loveatlast.org/living-lessons/week-13-false-guilt-and-forgiveness/
This time I said it with a huge smile, and it honestly felt GOOD to say it. I was FREE, free from the shame and guilt, and just saying those 2 words I LIED because even if I had, which I didn't, how wonderful that our GOD is right there to forgive us "who can forgive but GOD alone" so what's the big deal.
It's almost like you're poor (yes, we are each poor in spirit) but your very rich Husband is right there to pay for EVERYTHING because that's what He didâHe paid the price for every sin we have ever or will ever commit!
Oh, and guess what? He wanted me to remind you that rather than falling down, weeping, and begging Him to pay, He would really prefer you simply SMILE (because He loves when your eyes light up 
) and hug Him tightly... then, oh, tell a would-be bride so He can get a hug and a smile from them too.
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 "Surprise He Healed Me:
I also came across a few if you’re plagued with lies…
wLL 25 âLittle Liesâ
wLL 26 âRevelation Regarding Liesâ
wLL 27 âFallacious Guiltâ
Thank you for your post dear Erin, last week I had to confess that I STILL HAVE BITTERNESS towards my EH and yes I really have to work on it with my HH, but your previous words stuck: Apart from Him we can’t do anything.
And now that I read the wLL 7 âShackled and Yokedâ https://loveatlast.org/living-lessons/week-7-shackled-and-yoked/
…just remain open and donât ever run away from His love that is unconditional. Remember it was âwhile we were yet sinnersâ that He chose us to be His bride.
Loved reading your praise Erin, it is so easy to ask HH to forgive us when we realize we did something wrong, because He forgives and picks us up and continue to love us. But it is so difficult to forgive ourselves sometimes and “prefer” to carry the false guilt and shame and to allow the accuser to remind us of our failures, even if we know He forgave us. I used to be very good at torturing myself over the smallest things, but He healed me and lifted that weight I was trying to carry, thinking I have to carry it because of my sins. And now I can just accept His forgiveness and forget about it. Than you for the reminder that we van just SMILEđ and hug Him tightly because He already paid for EVERY sin đ
Obviously, this must be important. Three different times I came to comment on something specific you said Adina. Each time however, I thought âI donât know the answer and I donât really have anything to say.â But itâs been with me all day and finally when I believed I understood what my husband was helping me to understand He led me to find your comment.
After I logged in again, hours after I left, I was almost finished with my post when I went to look up something to include in my comment only to lose everything đ© Since this happened countless times (when you open a post from your email) this time God used it for good, and I now believe I know how not to put myself in that situation again. đđ»
Now to the revelation, and what it was that had me confounded/baffled. You mentioned âforgiving yourselfâ and itâs just become something thatâs accepted and even promoted âyou have to forgive yourself.â
However, thatâs what drew me to come back to comment 3 times because it just didnât feel right.
When I lost everything, I thought OK, I was obviously mistaken so just move onâŠ
Yet, here I am again. I certainly donât have all the answers, but hereâs the thing that my Husband pointed out that I had missed. Anytime we have the word SELF in it, we are treading on dangerous ground. Because we know that our Beloved told us to die to self and itâs what He did as our example. So when we revive it enough to have to forgive our SELF well, thenâŠ
Nevertheless, what you said about tormenting is exactly true. My question is where you tormenting your SELF or was it the tormentor who is tormenting you?
May I share my opinion? I believe it was the tormentor, and why I may very well may be correct is based on this truth that He reminded me aboutâa truth that is all but ignored.
God said NO one EVER hated his own flesh, but nourishes it, cares for it.
https://biblehub.com/ephesians/5-29.htm
Now I am faced with another dilemma⊠What about people who are hurting themselves like those poor souls do cutting?? Yet I still believe that this is the tormentor whoâs doing it, not we ourselves. If we donât identify the enemy, and we can believe that we ourselves are the enemy of ourselves, I just believe if were created in his own image and especially when we have His spirit in us, then the enemy is the tormentor, and maybe even depression is more oppression (not originating in us but it is put upon us).
Itâs certainly something to talk to your Husband about. Please keep in mind that I am a professed fool used to confound the wise. https://biblehub.com/1_corinthians/1-27.htm